Well what a time it has been for news in the last couple of weeks. The joy of the successful rescue of the boys in the caves by divers who would not receive the accolade of being called heroes. The emotional rollercoaster of supporting England in the football World Cup. The first visit to our country of Donald Trump, a man who creates strong emotional reactions by causing chaos where ever he goes. Yes there has been a visible outpouring of feelings from people throughout the country. However there is one lady who has also been in the news over this period who rarely gives us a glimpse of her feelings and that is the Queen.
Sometimes I think it is a shame that the Queen has to hide her feelings because she has the most radiant smile when we get to see it. However in her meeting with Donald Trump this week she remained dignified and emotionless. He however can be seen grinning like a cheshire cat in the official photograph of their meeting. Clearly he was incredibly happy to have gotten an opportunity to meet her. It was very sad therefore that he did not appear to show her the respect that she deserved. The question is did he do it deliberately?
Do you think he was full of his own self importance, as many have said, or could he have been so transfixed by the occasion and the Guard of Honour in front of him that he misunderstood the Queen’s hand signal and walked directly into her path. I must admit I did chuckle as I watched the Queen subtly try to direct Mr Trump and then resign herself to simply changing her own path. Since Mr Trump gushed about the Queen after the meeting with words like amazing, wonderful, wise and beautiful, and declared it was an honour to meet her, then I assume he got lost in the moment and did not intend to disrespect her. The irony was that he also commented on the way she has conducted herself for so many years. To be honest I was a little surprised that he could appreciate her dignified and stoic performance.
I know the monarchy are not popular with everyone but it is hard not to admire the Queen. She has been working for just under 70 of her 92 years as our Queen. She is incredibly knowledgeable about world affairs and also about subjects that interest her such as horses. She came under great attack when Princess Diana died but, as someone who lost her Mum at an early age, I know that if the crowds who criticised her, had truly thought about what was best for the boys, they would have understood she was being a very protective Grandmother. All that aside at 92 she has well and truly earned our respect.
Respect is one of our core values. It’s something we all crave and has been something that every older generation has claimed the younger generations have lost. The phrase “these youngsters have no respect” has been uttered by generation after generation and even the younger generations themselves will justify their bad behaviour by saying someone else disrespected them.
So what do we mean when we say we expect to be treated with respect? I believe we are saying:-
- Talk to me in a calm manner, do not shout or swear at me
- Do not step into my personal space
- Do not criticise my appearance
- Share your thoughts but do not make me wrong and you right
- Treat me as your equal
- Do not ignore me
- Do not make your world more important than mine
- Give me your full attention when you are with me
- Do not keep looking at your phone or worse use it, unless it is an emergency
- Say please if you are requesting that I do something for you
- Say thank you if I have helped you
- Do not take or damage any of my belongings
This seems to be a long list but I think my Grandma would sum it up as “treat me the way you would like me to treat you”
If we want to be treated with respect then we must treat others in the same way. If we want the next generation to be respectful then we need to take the lead and demonstrate to them how that looks. They always learn more from what we do then what we say. For what ever reason Donald Trump was not being respectful when he walked in front of the Queen but neither are the people who have criticised him for it by calling him names which leads to another of my Grandma’s sayings ” Two wrongs don’t make a right!”