My partner left the house at 5.30 am to go to work. The children were up, washed, dressed, had breakfast and were ready to go at 8am but their Mum was running late so she didn’t pick them up until 8.45. The children are now out for an extra day with their Mum and Grandmother. I have cleared the kitchen ready for Rosie the cleaner to clean, emptied the washing machine ( where do all those odd socks go to??), emptied the bins and sorted the recycling, and helped Rosie fix the blockage in the hoover.
I started to make the beds but then a little voice in my head asked me quietly “what do you really want to be doing?”. What I really wanted was to be in my office working on my business so I dropped the duvet, grabbed my laptop and retreated to the peace and quiet of my office. When I got here I shouted at the cat for not leaving me alone, screamed at the laptop for not sending yesterdays emails and burst into tears…..yes I was in a full attack of Overwhelmitis.
Do you have days like this or is it just me? I think I have a day to myself yet there is so much to do before everyone gets back and all those little jobs that don’t take much time individually seem to hijack my time. I desperately want to spend time working on my business because it is really important to me but finding time during the school holidays is so difficult. I also want to create a relaxing and loving home in the house we are all living in and although I have now been here 3 months I still have a whole garage full of stuff to sort out.
So I have a To Do list for taking care of my family, a To Do list for taking care of our pets, a To Do list for creating a beautiful home, a To Do list for my work and a To Do list for looking after me. I never feel like I get enough done, always feel guilty that I am not eating better or exercising everyday or finding time to tell my friends how much I value them or spending enough time on my business. I carry my To Do lists with me everywhere!!! You never know when you might get a minute to tick something off one of the lists!! Does this sound familiar?
As a sensitive person I know I am easily prone to Overwhelmitis. I do not thrive on stress I wilt and retreat. I have to balance time with people, and that includes my family, with quiet time on my own. If you have a sensitive child you may find then doing this instinctively. So what can I do to prevent my regular attacks of overwhelm. Well one of the things I usually do is to start my day walking with my dogs, Bollie and Gypsy, on Rodborough Common. This morning ritual really is good for my soul but I didn’t go today as the dogs are not with me as they are staying with a friend for a couple of days.
Nature really is a valuable companion for dealing with overwhelm. This morning when the tears arrived, I opened the doors and windows in my office so the air could flow through. With my eyes shut I could feel it on my face as I took a moment to sit and breath. I could hear the wind rustling in the trees, the birds singing,the buzz of a bee as it investigated my office and a click as the kettle boiled. I made a nice cup of green tea and lemon, took a moment to just sit and soon my overwhelm attack was over and I sat at my desk and started writing this blog.
There are many thoughts now materialising in my head of what I can do to limit my attacks of Overwhelmitis but I will share these thoughts with you in my next blog.
What do you do when you start to suffer from the symptoms of overwhelm?
Do you turn to Mother Nature like I do or is there something else that helps to relieve your symptoms?