Do you spend a lot of time worrying about your child’s education and the qualifications that they will or won’t get? Do you find it difficult to get them to understand the value of a good education? As an ex teacher I will always value a good education but I believe there are other qualities that your child also needs to live a happy and successful life which are far more important than their educational qualifications.
Last weekend I listened to the Francis Dunnery Radio show. Those of you old enough to remember the 80’s band It Bites may recognise the name. I love listening to this show because Francis is not afraid to share his opinions. He does often make sweeping statements but his intention is not to offend but to get people talking and he definitely does that. The show I listened to was looking at the reasons why the English football team failed so spectacularly. Now if you are not a football fan please stay with me for a moment.
Francis asked the question “What did the Welsh team have that the English team did not? ” It is a great question. It wasn’t so much about their footballing skills but it was all about their SELF BELEIF. The Welsh had it in bucket loads as did the Icelandic team and also the eventual winners Portugal who continued to play with confidence even after they lost their captain Ronaldo. England may be a team of individually talented players but they do not seem to have belief in the team and haven’t had for many years.
There were 2 other British sportsmen however who demonstrated great self belief this weekend. Lewis Hamilton claims his strong and positive mental attitude helped him to come back from a disastrous start to the season and start winning races again. He clearly was over joyed to win his home Grand Prix at Silverstone this weekend and thanked the British fans for their support. Lewis could physically feel the energy from all the fans who were willing him to win.
Andy Murray also demonstrated great self belief to convincingly win his second Wimbledon title. Since his first Wimbledon win Murray had to have back surgery. In a post match interview he said it was difficult to get his confidence back after his back surgery but with coach Lendle back in his team his confidence soared and he played flawless tennis to win his second Wimbledon in style.
Sportsmen and women have known for years that their mental attitude plays a huge part in their ability to win. They were visualising success in the days when visualisation was considered a bit woowoo! Now neurophysicists are demonstrating scientifically what sports people and spiritualists have known for a long time. The power of our minds creates the world we experience and there is nothing more powerful than Self Belief.
We cannot all be top sports people but each and every one of us has a gift that we can share with the world. Finding that gift and nurturing it is the key.
So how do we help our children to have Confidence and Self Belief?
1. Do not make their achievements be only about being better than others, encourage them to be the best that they can be in everything they do.
2. Celebrate their successes but also teach them to celebrate the success of others
3 Give them a voice. Show them that you value their opinions by listening to them. You do not have to agree with their opinions but listening is very powerful
4. Encourage them to be individuals and not to always follow the pack like sheep
5. Show them that their thoughts are powerful.
And of course do remember that the most powerful way to teach our children anything is by demonstration. If your self confidence is not great may be now is the time to value you and nurture your own self belief at the same time. If your self esteem is soaring or your child is very confident what did you do to nurture that self belief? So the greatest gift you can give your children is Self Belief. Without it life happens to you, with it you can create the life you want to live. On a scale of 1 to 10 with 1 low and 10 high where is your self belief right now?