Have you started to think about your children going back to school yet? May be you are fed up of hearing the phrase ” I’m bored” and so you are counting the days or may be you have suddenly realised there is only a couple of weeks to go and there seems to be so much to do before your children go back.
If your child is going to a new school this is a big step for both of you. Secondary schools always seem so big compared to the safety of a small junior school and like many Parents before you it may now be your turn to worry about how your child will cope. So many Parents get anxious about this transition but if you want to get rid of the anxiety and make the transition as smooth as possible here are some steps you can take to make it easier;-
1. Firstly Be Prepared.
There is nothing quite like taking action to help cure us of our fears and anxieties. Make a list of all the practical stuff that you need to do before your child enters those big school gates on their first day. You may still need to buy uniform or stationary, you may need to sort out their travel arrangements and if needed a bus pass, you may need storage containers for their packed lunches. What ever it is that you need to do, make a list and schedule days and times over the next 2 weeks for doing each thing on the list and include your child in the preparation.
2. Stop Worrying
I know, this is easier said than done but please consider how your worries can be affecting your child. When you are worrying about whether your child will cope in a new school you are actually sending a message to your child that says you don’t think they will. Your child will of course have their own worries and anxieties so they don’t want to feel your doubts as well. I know you will try to hide your worry but your fears will be sent energetically to your children and they cannot help but feel them. So when those worries surface instead of giving them head space start to focus on all the characteristics your child already has that will help him or her fit in. May be they are little chatter boxes and will find it easy to make friends, may be they are good at concentrating so will cope well in their lessons, may be they love learning new things so will embrace all the new facts and figures they are about to learn, may be they already have friends who are going to the same school. There are so many ways of focusing on how your child will cope rather than focusing on how they may not. When you do this you send a message that says ‘I believe in you” and the more you focus on the positive the better both you and your child will feel about their new start at their brilliant new school.
3. Talk To Your Child
As well as thinking positive thoughts start to talk to your child and discuss all the great things about going to a new school. Ask them what they are looking forward to. Look at how exciting it will be to make new friends, have more teachers, do subjects they haven’t studied before, there may even be more sporting opportunities and clubs that they can join. Whilst you are talking to your child paint a verbal picture with them of their perfect first day. Help them to see it and feel it and I promise that if you do they will soon be experiencing that perfect day.
4. Get Some help
If you are struggling to cope with your worries about your child going to a new school or your child is excessively anxious about the new school and you would like some support then please contact me now to book a free call and find out how I can help you. Telephone me on 07818418818 or send an email to email@example.com