I have realised that on both occasions this year when I felt desperately sad because of the loss of one of my horses I suddenly felt a strong desire to declutter my home!!
Now to be honest I am not a huge hoarder so it is not a stressful process for me but it did take my divorce to show me just how invigorating the process of decluttering could be.
A Declutter Revelation from my divorce
If you have experienced divorce you will know how sad, stressful and draining the whole process can be. My husband and I lived in a beautiful 6 bedroomed country house and the task of packing up and going our separate ways was incredibly daunting. It was not made any easier by the fact that he was working until moving day so I was on my own. With 15 rooms in the main house I had a plan to do one room at a time and then label the door to say that room was packed. What a revelation it turned out to be. Far from it being sad and depressing I seemed to feel more energised with each room I did! For me there were 2 rules. If something was coming with me it either had to
- look pretty or
- be needed from a practical point of view.
For everything else I simply decided if it went with my husband, went to charity or went in the skip. It did make me laugh to see my husband check the skip each time he came back to the house to make sure I hadn’t thrown away something important! And yes in case you are wondering he did ‘rescue’ a few items.
So why the need to declutter when I was feeling so sad?
Well the connection is Energy. I knew I had to feel my sadness in order to work through it but after a couple of days I wanted to do something. Clearing up the space around us allows the energy in our homes to flow and whether we can see it or not it helps us feel better. We feel calmer, can think more clearly, sleep better, and are more focused and creative. The eastern culture of Feng Shui has guided people to maximise the flow of energy for 1000’s of years, they say it dates back to 4000bc and in recent years scientific research in the western world has confirmed that clutter limits our brains ability to process information, in other words it stops us from thinking clearly.
Do you need to declutter?
I have worked with many families where decluttering has had a positive affect on the behaviour of the children. I know that it may seem an impossible task but if you knew that letting go of some of the excess stuff in your home would result in your children sleeping better, getting better grades at school and generally behaving better, on a scale of 1 to 10, how much incentive do you now have to start decluttering your home?