According to the Daily Mail, a survey completed for Highland Spring revealed that on a week day families spend an average of 34 minutes together!!!
So what does a week day look like in your home?
What is the morning routine like in your house? Do you start your day peacefully sharing breakfast around the kitchen table?Or does your house resemble organised chaos with arguments over getting up, getting organised and getting out?
And at the end of the school day do you look forward to picking the children up from school and hearing about their day? Do you love creating the family meal because eating together is a time that you love and value? Or is it a rush to get to school on time to pick them up? Does mums taxi get overworked because of all the after school activities? Do you wish you could make one meal that everyone would eat without complaining? Does your evening start with an arguments over homework and finish with one over bedtime? When the children are finally in bed do you collapse in a heap?
According to the survey….
- Families only spend 34 minutes together on a school day
- At the weekend that figure increases to 97 minutes
- 8/10 Parents think they do not spend enough Family Time together
- 6/10 struggle to get the Family together and when they do it is often spent in silence in front of the tv, playing on phones or tablets, or watching a film.
Less Time Together = More Problems
In my experience working with Families the biggest cause of bad behaviour and emotional problems is a lack of communication. I spend a lot of my time advising Parents to spend more time with their children, to get to know them better, and to find out what the world looks like from their child’s perspective. It is a simple solution. You cannot expect your child to talk to you about the bigger problems if you do not find time to talk to them about the little things. When they are used to communicating with you they will then feel safe to share about the things that are worrying them. I know the world is a busy place and I understand how precious your time is but the truth is after Love the most precious thing you can give your child is Your Time
So are you going to find more Family Time?
I promise you that all children, no matter how young or old, want to feel safe and loved and for that they need to feel like they belong. As a Parent it is both a joy and a challenge to create that loving family. Isn’t that what you wanted when you had your children? Don’t forget how important your Family is to you? Find time for them. I promise you will not regret it.
Wishing you all many happy hours of Family time.