A few years ago I worked with a young teenage girl, I will call her Lisa. who was causing her Parents and her school many problems. As I observed her at home and talked to her in private I could feel her pain. She was different, she did not fit in and she was feeling very lonely and unloved.
In truth Lisa did not make it easy for her family to demonstrate their love.Her behaviour was challenging in every way. She was very conscious of how people treated her and she objected strongly and loudly if she considered that she was being treated badly but at the same time she constantly bullied one of her siblings. Lisa hated change and wanted her own way in everything. If she did not get it she could very quickly lose her temper and become quite violent. I was often called in to calm Lisa when she had locked her whole family out of their home! They loved Lisa but they were very embarrassed by her behaviour and were becoming afraid of her temper.
I had not heard of Aspergers at that time and Lisa had not been diagnosed but in analysing energetically where this teenagers was having problems I found myself compiling a list of characteristics that I now know are demonstrated by children on the Aspergers scale. To be honest I thought I had found a key to helping her but whilst her Parents were happy to change the way they treated Lisa to allow for her different perception of the world sadly, unless she had a label, her school were not prepared to do the same!
Lisa was constantly being punished at school for behaviours she struggled to control and in a way that made her behaviour worse. It was a vicious circle. She hated school and in truth school did not really want her there. Eventually Lisa changed to a more understanding school and although her parents did not want her to live with the Aspergers label they relented because more doors of support opened once the label was in place.
There are many children in the world now who have a different perception. A large percentage of the population believe this means these children are not normal. But what is normal? And why are we striving to encourage our children to fit into the parameters of being normal, of being like everyone else?
Those who truly succeed in life often achieve greatness by being different. If we can teach the next generation to love their similarities and embrace their differences then no child will ever feel that they are less than they should be or less than they could be. No child will suffer from low self esteem. How wonderful would that be?
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